Episodes

**Video Episode** Guest Episode: Robin from Workit Health | Episode 130

Oct. 19, 2021

Robin shares about her trauma background, continual relapses from polysubstance use and how those led to the creation of Workit Health.

Why People Get Offended When You Set Boundaries with Them | Episode 129

Oct. 11, 2021

People who don't have healthy boundaries often get upset or offended when others set boundaries with them.

Are You a Peach or a Pear? Not Everyone Is Going to Like You | Episode 128

Oct. 4, 2021

Not everyone likes peaches, and maybe you're a peach and that's why not everyone likes you!

You Don’t Have to Believe the Stories Going through Your Head | Episode 127

Sept. 27, 2021

If the stories going through your head about yourself, others and the world aren't serving you, you can change them.

How Understanding Your Part in Things Brings You Out of Victim Mentality | Episode 126

Sept. 20, 2021

When you look for "your part in things" as taught in recovery, you start to see you have choices which is the opposite of victim mentality.

Top 12 Lessons on Dating and Relationships from 12-Step Recovery | Episode 125

Sept. 13, 2021

Here are 12 lessons from 12-step recovery that can be applied to dating and relationships to improve them.

Why and How To Stop Falling In Love With People's Potential | Episode 124

Sept. 6, 2021

When we fall in love with people's potential, we put too much energy into THEIR lives and neglect our own lives.

Why Asking Constructive Questions Instead of Destructive Questions Improves Your Life | Episode 123

Aug. 30, 2021

Learn how to ask questions that build yourself up rather than tear yourself down.

Stop Fixing, Rescuing and Protecting Others and Keep That Energy for Yourself! | Episode 122

Aug. 23, 2021

If you've been giving someone advice for years and they've never taken it, this episode is for you!

How to Harness the Power of Bookending When Setting Boundaries | Episdoe121

Aug. 16, 2021

I describe how to "bookend" with a safe other person to emotionally support you as you set difficulty boundaries.

*Video* Guest Episode with Hope - You Only Live Once | Episode 120

Aug. 9, 2021

Barb's guest is Hope who talks about YOLO and how it's a different concept in recovery than it was when she was young.

Getting Rid of Black & White Thinking and No Longer Tolerating Dysfunction | Episode 119

Aug. 2, 2021

Here's a story I call "The Garbage Can Dilemma" that illustrates how deeply we internalize black and white thinking and what it looks like to come out of it.

How to Untie the Bundle of Negativity and Self-judgment So You Can Have Peace and Ease | Episode 118

July 26, 2021

The negativity and self-judgment you have going on in your head can end, and it starts with the thoughts in your head.

How to Stop Creating the Opposite of What You Want to Get the Life You DO Want | Episode 117

July 25, 2021

When we're focus on what we DON'T want we tend to get it, so focus on what you DO want instead.

How to Change Other People's Behavior So You Can Have Better Relationships | Episode 116

July 12, 2021

Spoiler alert - you change other people's behavior by changing the way *you* behave with them!!

Here's How to Leverage Those Codependent Powers for Good! | Episode 115

July 7, 2021

Learn how to use your tendency to please others for your personal development by using an accountability partner such as a coach, sponsor, friend or therapist.

Here's What Recovery Looks Like in Real Life - My Day at the Beach | Episode 114

June 28, 2021

Recovery teaches us that we don't need to put up with the negativity going on around us, we can get up and leave.

Boundaries without Consequences Aren't Really Boundaries - They're Hopes and Wishes | Episode 113

June 21, 2021

Learn about the "three strikes" method for setting boundaries in this episode.

How and Why to Go from an External Focus to an Internal Focus | Episode 112

June 14, 2021

Having an attitude of "it's all about me" is an external focus, which is much less fulfilling and peaceful than keeping the focus on yourself.

How and Why to Stop Dragging the Story with You | Episode 111

June 7, 2021

If you stop constantly talking about the negative things that are happening in your life, you'll be astonished at how much your life will improve!

<Audio> Guest Episode - Codependency with Gail | Episode 110

June 1, 2021

My guest Gail talks about her journey with codependency as "recovering her lost self" in this episode.

How to Stop Abandoning Yourself So You Can Get Over Your Fear of Abandonment | Episode 109

May 24, 2021

When we stop abandoning ourselves, we stop being afraid of abandonment - because we're no longer being abandoned!!

How to Increase Your Integrity by Getting Clear on Your Intentions | Episode 108

May 18, 2021

If you're feeling a lack of integrity, this podcast will help you understand your motives and how to change them to positively impact your integrity.

The Importance of Boundaries in 12-Step Recovery: Learning from the Outside In | Episode 107

May 10, 2021

Most of us need boundaries to be imposed from the outside before we can learn to create our own healthy boundaries, and 12-step recovery programs do that in several ways.