Episodes

September 20, 2021

How Understanding Your Part in Things Brings You Out of Victim Mentality | Episode 126

When you look for "your part in things" as taught in recovery, you start to see you have choices which is the opposite of victim mentality.

September 13, 2021

Top 12 Lessons on Dating and Relationships from 12-Step Recovery | Episode 125

Here are 12 lessons from 12-step recovery that can be applied to dating and relationships to improve them.

September 06, 2021

Why and How To Stop Falling In Love With People's Potential | Episode 124

When we fall in love with people's potential, we put too much energy into THEIR lives and neglect our own lives.

August 30, 2021

Why Asking Constructive Questions Instead of Destructive Questions Improves Your Life | Episode 123

Learn how to ask questions that build yourself up rather than tear yourself down.

August 23, 2021

Stop Fixing, Rescuing and Protecting Others and Keep That Energy for Yourself! | Episode 122

If you've been giving someone advice for years and they've never taken it, this episode is for you!

August 16, 2021

How to Harness the Power of Bookending When Setting Boundaries | Episdoe121

I describe how to "bookend" with a safe other person to emotionally support you as you set difficulty boundaries.

August 09, 2021

*Video* Guest Episode with Hope - You Only Live Once | Episode 120

Barb's guest is Hope who talks about YOLO and how it's a different concept in recovery than it was when she was young.

August 02, 2021

Getting Rid of Black & White Thinking and No Longer Tolerating Dysfunction | Episode 119

Here's a story I call "The Garbage Can Dilemma" that illustrates how deeply we internalize black and white thinking and what it looks like to come out of it.

July 26, 2021

How to Untie the Bundle of Negativity and Self-judgment So You Can Have Peace and Ease | Episode 118

The negativity and self-judgment you have going on in your head can end, and it starts with the thoughts in your head.

July 25, 2021

How to Stop Creating the Opposite of What You Want to Get the Life You DO Want | Episode 117

When we're focus on what we DON'T want we tend to get it, so focus on what you DO want instead.

July 12, 2021

How to Change Other People's Behavior So You Can Have Better Relationships | Episode 116

Spoiler alert - you change other people's behavior by changing the way *you* behave with them!!

July 07, 2021

Here's How to Leverage Those Codependent Powers for Good! | Episode 115

Learn how to use your tendency to please others for your personal development by using an accountability partner such as a coach, sponsor, friend or therapist.

June 28, 2021

Here's What Recovery Looks Like in Real Life - My Day at the Beach | Episode 114

Recovery teaches us that we don't need to put up with the negativity going on around us, we can get up and leave.

June 21, 2021

Boundaries without Consequences Aren't Really Boundaries - They're Hopes and Wishes | Episode 113

Learn about the "three strikes" method for setting boundaries in this episode.

June 14, 2021

How and Why to Go from an External Focus to an Internal Focus | Episode 112

Having an attitude of "it's all about me" is an external focus, which is much less fulfilling and peaceful than keeping the focus on yourself.

June 07, 2021

How and Why to Stop Dragging the Story with You | Episode 111

If you stop constantly talking about the negative things that are happening in your life, you'll be astonished at how much your life will improve!

June 01, 2021

<Audio> Guest Episode - Codependency with Gail | Episode 110

My guest Gail talks about her journey with codependency as "recovering her lost self" in this episode.

May 24, 2021

How to Stop Abandoning Yourself So You Can Get Over Your Fear of Abandonment | Episode 109

When we stop abandoning ourselves, we stop being afraid of abandonment - because we're no longer being abandoned!!

May 18, 2021

How to Increase Your Integrity by Getting Clear on Your Intentions | Episode 108

If you're feeling a lack of integrity, this podcast will help you understand your motives and how to change them to positively impact your integrity.

May 10, 2021

The Importance of Boundaries in 12-Step Recovery: Learning from the Outside In | Episode 107

Most of us need boundaries to be imposed from the outside before we can learn to create our own healthy boundaries, and 12-step recovery programs do that in several ways.

May 03, 2021

How to Overcome Victim Mentality Even If You've Been Victimized | Episode 106

Learning that you actually have choices (even if it feels like you don't) will help you overcome victim mentality.

April 26, 2021

How to Turn Your Life Around: From Obstacles to Detours | Episode 105

Things that appear to be obstacles in our lives are really just detours, listen in to understand how to make that shift for yourself.

April 19, 2021

How Fear and Telling the Truth Can Lead You to Wholeness | Episode 104

Telling the truth leads to your integrity, which is another way of saying it leads to your wholeness.

April 12, 2021

How to Go from Black-and-White Thinking to Seeing the Gray | Episode 103

We have to slow down, breathe and get out of fight-or-flight mode to be able to see the gray, here's how.